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I've been through the work tags, but I couldn't find a concrete answer.

I've been on T for about a month, pass well enough that I was stealth at a previous job, but have not changed my name yet. In applying for jobs, I plan to put my preferred name on my resume and such, and only tell HR my legal name, if I get the job. There seems to be no problem with that, until the issue of possible background checks comes up.

So I guess here's my question. How often do retail-type jobs really do background checks, and do they do them before even getting in touch with you about an interview or whatever? I'm tempted to just put my preferred name, and hope for the best, but I don't want to hurt my chances of getting a job. I need one badly enough that if I have to put my legal name on the application, on my resume, on everything..I'll do it. I'd just obviously prefer not to. What advice can you guys offer me regarding all that? Anecdotes of firsthand experience would be awesome.

Would they work for someone getting on disability? or on disability? as i found out due to certain reasons, I will not get as much as i hoped for, for back payments when I get approved, and wondering if I should go through http://jimcollinsfoundation.org/ and if so how would it work? Would it effect me with being on disability? Like will disability ask or wonder how I got the money to pay for it? Or how would it work? I know they pay the surgeon that your going to, would it count as income?

i did encounter one prominent tag regarding migraines, but i didn't feel it quite met my question.

i've had migraines (classic variety, with all the aura goodness and numbness and debilitating pain) since i was 6. they had a fairly regular occurrence of 3 to 4 in a year that would knock me down for two days at a time. the frequency didn't change when i started T, although they gradually shifted hemispheres (from left to right side).

now, however, they're becoming more frequent. much, much more frequent. i've had 10 so far this year, and i might be miscounting on the low side. i feel like my life is falling apart. i spoke to my doctor and she gave me zomig, which, praise whatever divine being there is, works. so far i've had at least one a month, with two within two weeks just this past week (with one happening at work).

i've been on T for 3.5 years, so i would think i'm past the "gets worse before it gets better" phase. a few questions:

how did you keep these things from destroying your life? (i don't know if i can describe the absolute panic that overtakes me when i begin to have one, or even suspect i might get one)

are there some questions you feel i would benefit from asking my doctor? (i'm going to request a set of blood panels with T and E on work-up. i want to see if these are hormone related. maybe there's some other imbalance i should watch out for?)

and i've done all the googling i can about possible other ways to prevent or reduce their occurrence. what worked/works best for you? i figure it's much better to ask fellow migraineurs, even though i know migraines are strange, finicky creatures.


thanks guys.

Hey guys, I checked the tags but couldn't find any information about this, so I figured I'd ask.

I've tried a variety of binding methods and although a binder I had tried out from Underworks definitely helped to give me a more masculine looking chest, I found it almost impossible to get the thing on, and then found myself in extreme discomfort for the duration of wearing it. I had recalled someone mentioning on this community a while back about using compression shirts for binding and after giving it a shot discovered that I can get myself decently flat by using a youth sized compression tee and it's a lot more comfortable than other binding methods I used.

Realistically, I'm probably at least a year away from top surgery, as I'm not currently prepared for either the financial or emotional issues that surgery raises for me at this time. Based on things I've seen and read, I think I'm a borderline candidate for peri-areolar surgery, which is preferable for me. I know that over time binding breaks down tissue in the breasts and I'm somewhat concerned about how this may affect my chances at opting for a surgery I find preferable. I'm wondering if using a compression shirt will damage my chances at peri being an option, or if the fact that it doesn't seem to bind me as tight as a traditional binder makes it less of an issue. As it is, I use a sports bra just for hanging out at home in order to give my chest better support and only use the compression shirt when going out. Also, if a guy is slightly bigger chested than is usual for peri, is it possible to use liposuction to remove some of the tissue/fat and then have the procedure done? Thanks for your help!

I got my T from Wal-Mart pharmacy and it said to inject 100/two weeks and that it was good for twenty weeks, so ten shots. I wanted a weekly shot, so I inject 50/week.
I got an appointment with my endo on March 12th, in where I want to tell him that I want to double my dose, so inject 100/week. But, I counted the weeks that I have left, which is eight and my T runs out in early February. I thought that I could just refill my prescription and everything would be good. Turns out that my refills are on a prescription basis. Meaning that I need another prescription if I want another vial.
So..I'm scared, lol. Should I phone my endo on Monday and mention this to him and see if I can reschedual my appointment to sometime in February or just grit my teeth and go without T for a month? I'm not really sure what I can do. If I go without T for a month, what changes will revert back and what won't?
Thansks for responding and happy holidays.

From Minnie to Mickey (and all they did was turn off a gene)

Newspaper article on sex changes in mice.

Science really is progressing all the time. :)

I wanted to share my experience since up until now pretty much all I had heard from trans guys were of negative experiences with pelvic exams. If anyone put off getting one for years and years like I did out of fear of it hurting too much, being too scary, etc, I'm hoping this might be able to reassure you a bit!

( My (positive!) pap smear experience )

I know that a lot of non-prescription T supplements touted by online sources are frequently pure bull, but I was wondering if anyone had heard of/tried BioEntopic?
I'm getting impatient and frustrated, and I just want some way to move forward. I've been stuck in Limbo for too long.

Any experience to share? Thanks.

-Connor


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Hey guys! I hope that you're all doing well.

I'm now a month on Nebido -it's all going well, only I've been sick for the past week so I can't say if there have really been any changes (other than a bit of genital growth). All-in-all I've noticed no changes, but my voice may have begun to deepen a little - it's impossible to tell at present due to a horrible cough.

I've spent the majority of my life not passing as male, despite starting my life as male about 4-5 years ago. Then suddenly, out of nowhere, about a month or so before starting T I started passing as male in public, though I don't know how consistantly - but it seems pretty consistant to me.

But still I've been using female toilets, pretty much because I am an utter wimp. I have a bit of a social anxiety issue with public restrooms, and hate leaving the cubicle until there is no-one at the sinks (though I'm okay with biiiig public restrooms with lots of sinks), as I feel oddly unsafe until the coast is clear - so to speak.

So now I have absolutely no idea when to start using male restrooms. I figure that it should be ASAP, in order to help my passing, although my voice doesn't pass yet. I mean, I don't get dirty looks from women when I use the ladies' toilets, but on the one occassion I used a male restroom.. I had no problem there either. (Single cubicle, wasn't binding, left the toilet to get a polite smile from a gentleman going in after me.)

Also, my fiance is cisgendered male and we often use restrooms at the same time, and weirdly the concept of using a restroom at the same time as him really weirds me out, even though I'd always be using a cubicle.

But I'm getting really tired of spending time with FtM friends and pouting when parting ways to go into different restrooms.

So I was just wondering - for guys who use mens' restrooms, when did you make the switch? When did you feel safe and confident enough to do so? How did you feel about using restrooms at the same time as male friends and the like? I'd love to know your experiences.

Sorry for boosting up this no doubt already discussed topic! And thanks in advance. <3

hey guys, has anyone had any problems coming out and telling your family and friends your 'new' name? when i came out at 14 i go by Shane cuz it seems closer to my real name, but apparently, my friends are so used to my real name they dont call me Shane. Now i go by Aiden cuz apparently, someone has a name Shane too in my school. How do you tell your friends to call you by your name that you want? I'm really worried cuz i'm going to college next year and some of my friends espically close ones are going to the same college as me and i dont want them to call me by my real name.
Thanks

Hey all,

I was wondering if anyone has any experience with the CHN Bronx Health Center and their services for trans folk. I know they do testosterone, but I was wondering what the process was and how much it would usually cost. Honestly, any information you may have will help.

Thanks,

Eli

My wife and I are looking for a home in Brooklyn from Jan thru June or July. I'm posting here b/c it would be really cool to find a queer friendly home, since I've been living "stealth" in not-so queer friendly places for the last 3 years.

If anyone has any leads, comment here or send me a message. A spacious kitchen would be awesome since I am a veg/vegan chef with lots of fun kitchen tools.

Thanks,
Eric

hello,

has anyone been to the ftm support group at Mazzoni in Philadelphia? What is it like and what does it involve? Is it for post-transition guys too? Is it a main group that meets or random walk-ins?

thanks

Hey guys,

I just had a couple of questions/situations I wanted to present to you guys and ( see what you thought. )

I went through the tags and didn't see anything recent that would answer my question; if I missed something and this is a repeat, I apologize.

I've been on T for almost two years and have changed my documents. I'm planning to get top surgery next year, hopefully during the summer. I am not seeing a therapist and would probably not be able to afford one (time- and money-wise). To be blunt I would only do so if it meant being stuck with these things on my chest. My only free option for psych services, the campus psych center, has a policy of not writing psych clearance letters regardless of the nature of surgery. The therapist I saw for my T letter over two years ago moved out of the city when she graduated (I went to a local university for therapy because they charged on a sliding scale) and I have no contact info.

The only other option I can think of is asking my doctor at Student Health to write a letter attesting to my mental and physical health since he did my Adderall refills two years ago and does them now, so it would technically be a 'long term relationship' as defined by the SOC). That's chancy at best, so I need another backup plan.

Has anyone been able to find a surgeon who will take the 'merits' (I use that word very loosely) of each patient's case rather than adhering to a one-size-fits-all interpretation of the SOC? I do understand the reasons for them, even though I disagree with them, but that doesn't help me. I'd rather not get into a debate over the SOC; they exist now and they'll exist whenever I start approaching surgeons, so debating them is pointless and unhelpful.

i have been getting my shots in my ass for awhile now ,,,, my last shot 3 days ago went fine until yesterday .... i got a huge painful lump whiteish in the middle and red on the outside .... i read up about it all i got was rub and heating pad .... it did help some but it is still there .... does anyone know what the hell went wrong .... it was all done the same as we do everytime .... anyone have this happen to them>? thanks!! -drew

has anyone tried the t-kingdom binders model 690 and 980? which binder flattens better? i'm thinking of getting a size smaller, according to the size chart i should be wearing a L but i dont think it'll bind pretty good. and i was wondering, since the 980 doesnt have velcro, how does it flattens your chest?
thanks.

Saturday, April 3rd, the first annual Florida Transguy Convention will be held in Orlando. A group of guys and I are putting together the details. I will post the details of the place it will be held, directions and time as soon as they are finalized. We are starting and RSVP list, so if you already know you can attend, please email me at deviant8578@yahoo.com Significant others and family members are welcome as well, just let me know.

Mike

Hey guys,

I wanted to share a project I've been working on, a youtube channel about gender and sexuality in society and my life. The target audience, I guess, is largely the people who really don't get it, but if you've got time I'd love to know what you guys thought, too.

http://www.youtube.com/user/MercuryBoi

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